by Erin Tillman
Balancing a career and having a love life seems impossible for many entrepreneurs. You’ve started your own business. You’re successful and financially stable. If there’s one thing that you’d add to the mix it would be a relationship or romantic partner. It’s always difficult to find the time to have a social life, let alone go out on dates. Maybe you see your friends and colleagues and find yourself becoming envious of their relationships and families. You ask yourself, “Was it the right decision to focus on work all these years?” Just remember, for all of the working women who wonder how their lives would have been different if they’d forgone their business for family life, there are just as many stay-at-home moms and full-time homemakers that would have loved to start their own business. The grass is always greener.
To be human is to wonder if you’ve made the right choices in life. The next time you start wondering if you’ve focused too much on your career and neglected your love life follow these 5 tips to put yourself at ease and to jump start your social life.
1. First, celebrate your success! You’ve started your own business and that’s huge! Make a list if it helps to remind yourself of all that you’ve accomplished.
2. Don’t compare yourself with others and remember that everyone has their own unique path in life. Some women start a family first then focus on their careers, while others establish their careers and focus on family later.
3. Remain present and enjoy where you currently are because every phase of life has its own special significance
4. Set some loose goals in regards to dating and then block off time in your schedule if it’s hard to find the time. Remember that you’ll need to make an effort and that might mean leaving the office early to go on a hot date with a new guy.
5. Make an effort to be more social and say ‘yes’ to more dates. You can only meet people if you’re making yourself available. Plan social activities around things that are already in your schedule. For example, go on a lunch date during your lunch break. It doesn’t have to be a long ordeal. Just give him an hour. Plus, if the date isn’t going so well you can just head back to the office!
Love and intimate connections happen in their own time. You can’t force them to happen but you can be proactive and make yourself available outside of the office. Even though building your business is the priority, that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a social life too. Some relationships that begin later end up being better because we’ve lived more life, we’re more established in our careers, and we have a better idea of what we want. I would also argue that creating a successful business gives you skills that are useful in any relationship or partnership.
Remember ladies, a happy, healthy relationship can develop at any stage, as long as you make room for it. The possibilities are endless!
THE DATING ADVICE GIRL, Erin Tillman, is a freelance writer and host living in Los Angeles, California. She’s a single girl ‘in the field’ who keeps a positive and realistic attitude in regards to men and dating. Erin has had a variety of relationships with men ranging from friendship to exclusive partnership in both the states and internationally. Erin is the author or the upcoming book The Dating Advice Girl’s Guide to Dating, a how-to guide that helps singles survive the first 6 months of new relationships. Find out more, www.TheDatingAdviceGirl.com
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