So why would you want to become a sales superstar? There could be lots of great reasons: You want to have a lot of money; You want to provide a lot of value; You want to pay off your debt; You want to feel a sense of accomplishment and personal fulfillment; You want to provide security for your family or just create security. These are all motivating reasons to get you up everyday. To begin becoming a sales superstar, you have to first embrace that you actually want to become this… that you CHOOSE to become this. Then you must let go of the past. Let go of all the excuses that have held you back and choose to begin solving every reason that has held you back. So, here’s how this works. Let’s say you have a problem, for example… “I don’t know how to be a sales superstar.” Your new response is… “great… how will I get to know how? Who can help me? What can I read? Who can help groom me?” You have to be committed to your goal and focus on it like a laser. Commit that nothing will get in the way of you achieving this goal. If you do that… then, NOTHING WILL GET IN THE WAY OF YOU ACHIEVING YOUR GOAL. That’s what successful people do. They never give up. They solve their problems and don’t allow distractions to get in their way.

I’d like you to start by making a commitment to get the support you need to become a sales superstar. Then, I’d like you to begin saying these affirmations daily:

Affirmations for Change:

1.  Before I start my day, I get in touch with my vision and purpose

2.  Before I start my day, I write out my goals and to-do items so I am set up for success.

3.  My success happens as a result of my bringing value to existing and potential customers.

4.  I deserve abundance and am willing to receive it because I provide incredible value.

5.  I make time to prospect every day.

Good luck!!

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How to Communicate to Get What You Want and Need! While some men just aren’t Mr. Boyfriend Material, others just need clear communication from you about what you want, need and expect from them. To make things trickier, many women have difficulty articulating exactly what they’re looking for. That said, imagine if you knew the following:

• Exactly what you want in a partner, including his values and goals in life.
• How to effectively communicate your needs and expectations without having to be bitchy, brash or judgmental.
• Simple ways to set boundaries to allow the possibility of a relationship to unfold before you knee-jerk kick him to the curb.

In order to get your needs met, you have to be able to articulate exactly what you need and then be able to communicate those needs in a way that is appropriate, kind, compassionate, and reveals your true, authentic self.

Here are three steps you can take right now to begin to clearly express your desires to the man in your life so you can begin getting what you want:

1. Decide exactly you want.

If you’re going to communicate your needs and desires to your man clearly, you need to be clear in your own mind about exactly what those needs and desires are. Whether you want him to be on time, call instead of text, move the relationship to the next level, call you his girlfriend, or propose marriage, the first step is to own those needs and desires in your own mind.

2. Tell him directly.

No matter how great a guy is, he’s most likely not a mind reader. If you want him to call you instead of his usual texting, you’re going to have to tell him so. He may or may not be willing to comply. If he isn’t, it’s up to you to decide if the issue at hand is a deal-breaker. The bottom line is this: Once you communicate, he knows what you need and expect, and you are both agreeing to whatever resolution is reached together.

3. Set boundaries—and enforce them.

This is the most difficult part of self-care for many women. One of my clients recently shared a story with me about a date that went horribly awry. She had met the man online, and then they had met in person for coffee. Upon leaving the coffee shop together, her date discovered his car had been towed. Instead of politely excusing herself from the impending drama (setting a boundary), she felt obligated to be part of his crisis-management team. He called his mom, complained loudly about the $200 fee he had to pay to get his car back, and whined for hours while she drove him around searching for his car, an ATM machine, and so forth.

My client, who had known this man for only an hour (give or take a few exchanged emails and texts), spent the entire time she was with him fantasizing about how she might exit the drama without hurting his feelings. The result was that not only did she see a part of him he most likely didn’t want to share on a first date, but she also became annoyed with herself for not speaking up. She felt bad that she could not set the boundary immediately. Had she followed the two steps outlined above, it would have been simple from the get-go. Knowing she did not want to do crisis management for a man she had just met, should would have stated simply, “Thanks for the coffee. It’s such a drag your car was towed. I’m going to get on with my day now, but I look forward to hearing how it turns out when we talk next.” Instead, she wondered why he didn’t give her an out, excusing her from dealing with his mistake so she could get back to her life.

Men deserve to know what you want so that they have an opportunity to deliver. It’s that simple. Men are not mind readers. It’s up to you to tell them what you want, need and expect.

Want more?  Check out www.datingwithdignity.com!

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

1. Read about it here. We have packages starting at only $25…

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Sales is the lifeblood of your business. It’s the food and water your business needs to survive and more than survive… be healthy! And there’s a big difference between “just surviving” and “being healthy.” When you are just surviving, there is typically a lot of stress in your life, money worries, uncertainty, hoping for the best. “Just surviving” means that there is an underlying struggle daily that penetrates your body and mind. It takes its toll on you and your business. Whereas being healthy means that you and your business are in optimum condition; you and your business are thriving, enjoying, and growing. So… which do you want? And if it’s “healthy” you want… then it’s time to make some changes once and for all. Now if you are already healthy and thriving…congratulations and keep doing what you’re doing!!! If you’re not… then, you will want to read the coaching tip of the week, “Become a Sales Superstar,” where I give you some steps that you can take right away to start getting healthy in your life and business! Become a Sales Superstar… you can do this!!

Xoxo,

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

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Someone asked me last week, “Is it ever easy… being an entrepreneur?” I thought about it and said, “No… it’s not. Is it supposed to be?” I have not found that life is easy: relationships, health, and business. I have found that the only thing “easy” for me to do is to sit in front of the television and watch Grey’s Anatomy. But I get no satisfaction or sense of accomplishment from that. It’s good for a check-out and to “renew” myself but it doesn’t “do” anything for me.

She then said, “So what’s the key to success.” And I thought about that and wanted to respond with some profound answer and I couldn’t. So, I responded truthfully, “It’s hard every day that I put myself out there. If you want it to be easy, don’t put yourself out there. Putting yourself out there means there will be rejection, falling down, failure, upset, and it means there will be exhilaration, energy, excitement, adventure, fear… I LOVE all of that. I don’t think I always loved that. I think once I adopted a good relationship with fear, entrepreneurship became fun for me.

I think if someone enters the world of “entrepreneurship” thinking it will be easy and that there won’t be a fight, there will be disappointed. But, if you want and are determined to be an entrepreneur, then go for it and keep going for it because it’s a ride that never stops. Know that you are in for a fight… a fun, scary, awesome fight. Not a nasty, “bruise people” fight but a fight for your freedom, a fight for your ideas, a fight for the things you want. It’s all part of it. So, the key, accept that it will hard, challenging and scary and then you won’t be disappointed when it’s all of those things.

To Your Success,

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

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10 Warning Signs of Female Over-Training!  Females have significant medical risks from over-training (especially athletes).  According to the National Institute of Arthritis and Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases (NIAMSD), some female athletes see amenorrhea (the absence of menstrual periods) as a sign of successful training.   Missing your periods can be a sign of decreased estrogen levels which can lead to osteoporosis.

Females who over-train to the point that their periods stop can develop brittle bones and have bone fractures at an early age.  According to NIAMSD, some 20-year-old female athletes have been said to have the bones of an 80-year-old woman!

The Institute goes on to report  that even if bones don’t break when you’re young, low estrogen levels during the peak years of bone-building, the preteen and teen years, can affect bone density for the rest of your life.   And studies show that bone growth lost during these years may never be regained.

Broken bones and fractures due to osteoporosis can have lasting postural problems such as “stooped postures.”  These “stooped postures” are not a natural cause of aging—spines can be permanently damaged!

Girls and women who regularly over-train or use severe calorie restriction to lose weight are also at risk for many health problems such as bone loss, bulimia or anorexia.   If you are “too thin” as an exercising female, you need to take precaution and take care of yourself!

If you workout every day, that would be over-training!  You need at least one day of rest from exercise every week.  And, some weeks, you may need two days of rest.  Listen to your body!

And, you don’t need long, two-hour workouts. A strength workout of 30 minutes will do the job:

Here’s a good workout that takes just 30 minutes:

1. Plank, 10 repetitions, 5 second hold

2. Prisoner Squats, 15 repetitions, moderate pace

3. Pushups, 12 repetitions, moderate pace

4. Bentover Dumbbell Rows, 12 repetitions, moderate pace

5. Standing Dumbbell Shoulder Press, 10 repetitions, moderate pace

6. Tricep Dips on Bars or dips with hands and feet off the floor on benches, 10 repetitions, moderate pace

7. Squat Jumps, 10 repetitions, fast

Repeat circuit 3 times. Try not to rest between exercises. Rest 2-3 minutes between circuits.

The same can be said for cardio workouts. You can tone your body and improve your heart health with 20-minute interval cardio sessions, 2-3 times a week. There is no need for 1-hour, boring cardio sessions that wastes away your precious muscle mass.

According to NIAMSD, females should look for these 10 warning signs when it comes to exercise and over-training:

1. Missed or irregular menstrual periods.

2. Extreme or “unhealthy-looking” thinness.

3. Extreme or rapid weight loss.

4. Behaviors that reflect frequent dieting, such as eating very little, not eating in front of others, trips to the bathroom following meals, preoccupation with thinness or weight, focus on low-calorie and diet foods, possible increase in the consumption of water and other no- and low-calorie foods and beverages, possible increase in gum chewing, limiting diet to one food group, or eliminating a food group.

5. Frequent intense bouts of exercise (e.g., taking an aerobics class, then running 5 miles, then swimming for an hour, followed by weight-lifting).

6. An “I can’t miss a day of exercise/practice” attitude.

7. An overly anxious preoccupation with an injury.

8. Exercising despite illness, inclement weather, injury, and other conditions that might lead someone else to take the day off.

9. An unusual amount of self-criticism or self-dissatisfaction.

10. Indications of significant psychological or physical stress, including: depression, anxiety or nervousness, inability to concentrate, low levels of self-esteem, feeling cold all the time, problems sleeping, fatigue, injuries, and constantly talking about weight.

My saying is always this:  Don’t wreck your body in the quest for fitness!

Mark Dilworth at www.herfitnesshut.com

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

1. Read about it here. We have packages starting at only $25…OR

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Well…Do Less!! Why do we insist on working 15 hour days… stop it already! Unnecessary and your creativity will be sapped!! Put a cap on it. Prioritize. You don’t have to accomplish everything yesterday and you won’t. You never do, so why try? End your freakin day at a reasonable hour. You will be more productive, more creative and get more results.

Schedule Fun Time Daily!! You now know what you HAVE TO DO because you prioritized and narrowed your responsibilities to only those things you MUST DO. Right? Of course right! Now… what are you going to do for fun? Did you schedule anything? No? Why not? Everyday shouldn’t you enjoy? How will you get that day back? Enjoyment is a critical part of your life isn’t it? Shouldn’t it be? Ok then, schedule “free, fun” time daily. Make plans, have phone or in-person dates with friends, see a movie, make a nice dinner… whatever is enjoyable for you but ENJOY! DAILY!!!

Add “the fun” During Work. There are so many ways to have fun WHILE working. And why not? Why would you want it to be daunting, boring, “un-fun?” Hello…. You wouldn’t! So, how to make it fun? Listen to music; do work in an awesome environment like the beach, coffee shop or somewhere you love; include others while you work: friends, family, significant other… why not? If you think of “how” you can make it fun, chances are you will figure something out. It’s just that most won’t do that. But not you… you’ll do it, cuz you’re a rock star entrepreneur who LOVES advice from “moi!”

Enjoy the Spring,

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

1. Read about it here. We have packages starting at only $25…OR

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Stop Taking Rejection Personally! I recently went on my 4th date with a guy that I really liked. He was sexy, smart, and a great listener. We had great conversations and great chemistry. I saw definite potential in him. Then, in the midst of what seemed like a great courtship, a week went by without so much as a phone call or even a text from him. I began to worry. I decided to call him and ask him if everything was all right between us because my intuition was telling me otherwise. Sure enough, my gut was right.

I called him and he told me that I was too self-sufficient for him and that he needed a girl that “needed him” a little bit more. He wanted me to need him to do even minor tasks like balance my checkbook.

It was clear. I was the wrong girl for him. In the past, I would have probably just been passive, continued to date the guy, and then found myself perplexed as to why things were fizzling. In reality, it was because we weren’t the right match for each other; no one necessarily needed to change. It just wasn’t right. I was not willing to change myself that drastically and become dependent just to win him over.

Bottom line: If a man doesn’t like you for you…you’ve got to let him go. If a guy wants to change you, he doesn’t want you. There are tons of men that will like you just the way that you are. So be strong and patient. He will come.

After he revealed his true feelings, I thanked him for being honest with me and we ended our conversation and relationship cordially. I truly did respect his honesty because that’s how we both will ultimately end up with what we want. He did me a favor and taught me a lesson that all single women should live by. “Just be yourself and be prepared to move on if a man doesn’t want the real you.”

THE DATING ADVICE GIRL, Erin Tillman, is a freelance writer and host living in Los Angeles, California. She’s a single girl ‘in the field’ who keeps a positive and realistic attitude in regards to men and dating. Erin has had a variety of relationships with men ranging from friendship to exclusive partnership in both the states and internationally. Erin is the author or the upcoming book The Dating Advice Girl’s Guide to Dating, a how-to guide that helps singles survive the first 6 months of new relationships. Find out more, www.TheDatingAdviceGirl.com

Looking to grow your business and need support or just looking for some extra support in your life, check out Amy Applebaum’s Release Your Inner Millionairess Business Coaching Club

Does your Website Sound Like “You”? If you want a loyal audience, the kind that visit your website regularly, trust your advice and buy your products, they have to feel a personal connection to your product and business.

If your personal brand is at the heart of your business then they have to feel that connection to you.

One of the key ways to achieve this,  is to write in a conversational tone on your website. This can be tricky, especially if you’re more used to writing “professional sounding” documents.

So here are some practical tips for writing conversational copy and building that personal rapport with your readers!

Write in phrases, not long sentences

Think about the way you talk if you’re catching up with friends. Most people use shorter sentences rather than long and carefully prepared sentences. Don’t be afraid to include little chatty sound bites such as:

“So…”

“Well…”

“You see…”

They break up your copy and make it easier for your reader to think they’re actually having a conversation with you.

Create an image with your words

This can really make the difference between an article which sounds like a text book and an article that sounds friendly and personable. Be descriptive in your copy, and be specific when describing a benefit of your product or a point you want to make.

For example, let’s say you’re a spa owner, instead of telling your customer how they’re going to feel more relaxed after a hot stone massage, paint a vivid picture of it:

“As you feel the glowing warmth from the hot stones infuse your tired muscles, the aches and the pains of the day will simply drift away…”

Banish dull words!

There are some words which aren’t very descriptive or have been so over-used in writing and advertising that they’ve lost their impact. When you write for your website, challenge yourself to avoid the following words:

• Good
• Bad
• Nice
• Better
• Interesting
• Improved
• Things
• Stuff

Read it aloud

Before you hit that publish button or send it to print, read out your copy. Does it sound like you? Have you used words that you are stumbling over? Remove these words and replace them with ones more fitting with your personality.

Writing personably for your audience is key to building up an online community who trust you and want to keep coming back for more of your content. Let me know in the comments below how you get on!

Amy Harrison runs Harrisonamy Copywriting. She loves helping passionate business owners communicate their vision to their customers. For more copywriting tips and techniques, Subscribe to her blog or follow her on twitter: @littleunred.

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1. Read about it here. We have packages starting at only $25…OR

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1.  Stop Judging & Instead ACCEPT

All right, you got off track. The past is the past. Let it go. Accept that is what happened so we can get to the business of doing something about it in THIS MOMENT.

2.  Re-Commit… RIGHT NOW!

The problems really arise when you, because you got off track, say, “forget it” and abandon your goals because you dropped the ball. Don’t do that! Just get back on the horse. Don’t say, “I’ll start next year.” Don’t waste precious moments beating yourself up. Get back on track NOW! Re-Commit NOW by saying, “I re-commit right now.”

3.  Determine 30-Day Action Steps… RIGHT NOW!

So what has to happen to get back on track? What do you need to do? Make some calls? Drive to the gym? What steps do you need to take to achieve your goal? Write them down… please. Pretty please… with sugar on top. It will take 10 minutes of your time.

4.  Schedule the “Action Steps”… RIGHT NOW!

Just go to your calendar and start scheduling the actions in your calendar. That’s how you “intend” to follow through. Schedule.

5.  DON’T QUESTION

Now, follow your schedule. Don’t question what’s in your schedule or come up with reasons why you can’t. Just do what your schedule says to do. Why? Simply because you have integrity and you said you would. If you keep the promises you make to yourself, you will succeed. If you don’t, you won’t. It’s that simple.

So… that’s it. The past is over and now, let’s just get back on track!

To Your Success,

P.S. IMPORTANT NOTE: If you need support or have questions, I can answer them on our RYIM Coaching Club Q&A Call.  If you are not yet part of the Release Your Inner Millionairess® Coaching Club, you can:

1. Read about it here. We have packages starting at only $25…OR

2. Attend our FREE CALL: Intro to the RYIM Coaching Club. Register here: http://amyapplebaum.com/ryimintrocall/